I'm someone who is on speaking terms with my ex. I'm close and be friends with guy who I ever cared about tapi he's did not feel the same way (friendzoned haha). But I don't believe in removing someone from your life hanya sebab mereka tak membalas kasih/cinta anda - they don't feel the same way or their feelings changed, dulu sayang sekarang tak lagi. Ramai yang bagi pesanan "move on lahh, buang dia jauh-jauh, block all the social media". But then I will lose two types of people, someone I love and a friend too. Cukuplah bila dah takde jodoh tu aku hilang kekasih je. Tapi aku still boleh anggap dia sebagai kawan (sebelum bercinta pon memang asalnya berkawan).

I do think ada cara lain lagi to get over people, untuk move on but still have them in my life. Tak perlu buang, tak perlu campak jauh. Orang cakap "you patut let him go.. totally !, you'll never heal kalau masih contact dia lagi, pretend that he didn't exist in your life" Fuhhhh -

Aku dah cuba, dah buat.. but removing someone out of your life doesn't mean they'll got removed easily from your heart. Delete contact number dia, block dia, but then dalam hati? So why make it harder for yourself? Behind every jiwang-jiwang or percintaan korang dulu, secara tak langsung you've developed a friendship. Don't lose that !

Rejection or a break up, you'll probably cry yourself until fall asleep (been there done that before). You'll be upset for a little while but then korang akan sedar yang korang anggap dia antara insan yang terpenting dalam hidup. Because when you love someone, like betul-betul sayang, korang akan pilih untuk kekalkan dia dalam hidup korang - whatever form fits them. Tak semestinya bila dah break up korang terus buang macam tu je, padahal bukan ke korang anggap dia tu penting?  So if your relationship never work out, why not turn it into friendship. 

I want to built a relationship with people who know me well. Even kisah kita, it's the love story yang I thought would end in happily ever after but it's not happen. Even dia adalah orang yang aku sayang tapi tak mampu menyayangi aku, that's okay.  There is something to be said about two people who continue to fight for each other even after things have not gone accordingly, there is a RESPECT.

A respect for me because forgiving them for hurting me,

A respect I had for myself being that strong.

Because it does make you stronger.

Kita sering dimomokkan dengan cakap-cakap orang "not hurting yourself more by keeping them in your life, kenapa sakitkan hati masih berkawan or berhubung dengan ex" So we tend to let go of relationship that means a lot because we think it's for the best. *sigh*

Tapi aku percaya there's something beautiful getting over someone without having to lose them. Macam putus cinta tapi still berkawan. It might take a little longer, untuk tukar perasaan, untuk sesuaikan diri, untuk redha dengan semua but that's okay. Bayangkan, you're laughing at a mamak restaurant about how much you've been through together.

Proses getting over someone or move on isn't easy. There's always going to be a piece of you masih sayang dia, tapi biarkan sayang tu mengalir, sebagai kawan. Mereka pon masih sayang kita, maybe not the way we wanted, but they love you the best way they know.